Ask TSJ: Would a White Woman Ever Consider Dating an Asian Man?

asian manLife is hard. It seems like every new day brings a new question that, try as you might, you’re just unable to find an answer for. The Smoking Jacket understands this, and we’re here to help.

Each week, media sensation Tracy Pendergast and TSJ’s managing editor, Adam Tod Brown, set aside some time in their busy schedules to answer your questions in a feature we’ve cleverly named “Ask TSJ.”

This week’s incredible question comes from a TSJ reader named Vyctor…

I’m just wondering whether the average Caucasian woman would consider dating an Asian male? Do women generally find Asian males attractive in comparison to their Caucasian counterparts? Are there any particular concerns that women have in entering interracial relationships? How may I, as an Asian male overcome these concerns when trying to ask a woman out on a date?

adamAdam Tod Brown: Have you ever shown up to work and, as soon as you get there, you immediately begin wondering why you even bothered getting out of bed? Today is that day for me. I literally have no clue what I’m supposed to be doing here. I’m not a Caucasian woman, so I can’t really speak to whether or not they find Asian men attractive.

I can say that I went to grade school with a white chick who dated an Asian dude. His name was Brian. He was a total dick. She was too, now that I think about it. But hey, at least I can assure you that history is on your side in that respect.

Let’s be honest though. There’s a huge disparity between Asian men and Asian women on the sexual desire scale. I know plenty of dudes with absolutely crippling fetishes when it comes to Asian women. I don’t think it works the other way though. I’ve never heard of a white chick spending hours of internet time perusing Japanese fetish porn sites. I’m not even sure any sites like that exist for women. So that’s a bad sign, I guess.

I guess what I’m getting at is this…I have no damn idea how to answer your question. I’ll just co-sign whatever Tracy says.

tracyTracy Pendergast: Regardless of race or religion, no woman can resist the power of a confident man! You need to walk in to a room and own it! Yeah you’re Asian, so what? That doesn’t define you as a man. You can’t be in a constant state of awareness that you are different. You’ve got to get out of your head. Your people created sushi! Your ancestors were ninjas! Bruce Lee and Lucy Liu are your peeps! Vyctor, you are the man!!

I think it’s very normal to assume that most women have a “type,” of course we do! But a charming man with a great personality can make women forget their “type” real fast. No one can choose who they ultimately fall in love with, and confidence trumps all!
I’m not sure where you live, so it may be a little different for you, but I live in New York and almost all of my friends are in interracial relationships. I never even think twice about it. When I read your question I was actually a little surprised that you would be so concerned. Vyctor my advice to you is just focus on yourself. Do whatever you need to do to feel confident and happy, and the women, whatever race they may be…will follow. If any woman doesn’t want to date you because of your race or what people may think, she is not the kind of woman you want in your life anyway!

Adam Tod Brown is the managing editor of The Smoking Jacket. He would like to be your friend on Facebook and on Twitter @realadambrown.

Tracy Pendergast is a writer, model, singer, television personality and professional magician’s assistant. We might be lying about one of those facts. Check out her official website or follow her on Facebook to find out which one.

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